We often think that we "should" be this way or that way. The word "should" is about control. When we engage in "shoulds", we give away our ability to control our own lives by choosing what it is we want and we allow our choice to be governed by something or someone else.
Sometimes, the best thing that can happen to us is for someone to see us when we are most vulnerable. Then, the cat is out the bag so to speak, and we can drop that false front that we all carry around. When the jig is up we can relax because our so called worst fear has been realized and then we can take back the control of our lives.
Sometimes the best thing for us is the worst thing that can ever happened to us.
My favorite quote from the book, Tea Life, Tea Mind is:
Be rebuked Stand corrected and learn
Do you want to be great? Then make some mistakes. Relax, nobody's perfect. Even monkeys sometimes fall from trees.